I recently read Tila’s blog post called “P*ssy Power is Power”, and thought I would give a response.

In the post she basically attacks the long standing social issue of sexism that we have in this country.  You know how men are praised for sleeping with many women and women are considered sluts or hoes for sleeping with many men?  Well, she goes on to say that a women needs to be, “a strong, intelligent, independent, and fierce woman who isn’t afraid to use her P*SSY POWER!”.  She also says that women need to stick together and promote this “P*ssy Power” attitude.

Tila, I understand how you can attack this problem because you feel like it is unjust to women, but I think that this is not the solution to the problem.  You are basically using the classic “us against them”, mentality.  We see this all the time in this culture.  You see it in politics, religion, sports and many other situations.

All this does is keep things the way they are and whoever is more powerful will win.  It doesn’t solve anything.  It is basically like Good vs. Evil.  I agree with you that things should not be like that and people should be able to sleep with whomever they want to and not be criticized or discriminated against.

The Problem

I think the main problem is that people view each other as property and not human beings.  Example, when a man chases after a girl and finally wins her affection he starts to refer to her as “HIS girlfriend”.   The women refers to the guy as “HER boy friend”.  Let’s say you meet this couple and the man introduces his mate as “MY wife” or “MY girl friend.

These terms, HIS HIM and MY are referring to possessions or property.  The property aspect comes into play when someone else is interested in your possession.  For example another guy hitting on YOUR woman.  I know some people think this is because of human nature.  People think it is natural to be territorial.  I disagree and new scientific evidence refutes the human nature belief and prove that these behaviors are all a product of our environment.

Our media and television shows promote this type of behavior.  As a matter of fact Tila, your show, “A shot at love” promotes this type of behavior as well.  Young people watch these shows and get caught up just like adults do.  Just imagine what is happening to these young people who are very insecure and emotionally immature.  They are basically going to be scarred from this.

The Solution

Unfortunately, it seems like this will never end but there is a solution.  ALL people need to understand how to respect each other.  They need to understand the benefits of treating each other with respect.  We must stop treating each other as property and not human beings.

The only way we can learn to do this is for us first to realize why we treat each other this way.  It is the environment that causes it so we must change our environment in order for us to learn how to respect each other.  We need to move away from these social norms that enable this type of behavior.

Take a deep look the things that influence us the most, and change those influences to more positive ones, and you will see a big difference.

I am a regular user of Myspace and I recently became friends with Tila Tequila.  She just came out with a book, which was released today, and she held a signing.  The debut went smooth up until she started posting pictures of her fans on her page.

People began posting hater comments on the pictures and started bashing her fans.  This upset Tila to the point where she created a video and posted it on her myspace blog.  Here is the video she uploaded on Youtube.

She is obviously very upset that people could do this to her fans.  She likes to use the “F” word a lot as you can tell also.  People followed many of those comments with comments to Tila telling her she should not worry about those haters, etc.

It is nice to see how much she cares about her fans though.  All celebrities should care about their fans because they are what make them celebrities.  I have met some that treat their fans like crap and it is surprising that they still have fans.